Deconstructing the myth of being “not good enough” or “being too much”

Whenever these thoughts arise in my consciousness, I now play a little game.

I ask myself: For whom? For what purpose?

I try not to spiral into doubt but instead investigate the source of these insecurities.

And then, somehow, the idea dismantles itself — because it has no real foundation.

You are part of existence.

Some greater Source wanted you to be here.

You wouldn’t exist if you were “not good enough.”

You wouldn’t exist if you were “too much.”

You simply wouldn’t be here.

Even if your mind insists that you’re not good enough — for what purpose, and for whom?

If you can’t answer that clearly, then it’s just an empty statement.

And if it’s about a person, why not ask instead of assume?

Even if they say “you’re not good enough” — for example, for a romantic relationship — isn’t it better to know that opinion than to live with a constant assumption, creating unchecked negative thoughts and feelings inside you?

If you’re “not good enough” for someone, it simply means that person is not your person — at least not right now.

And if you’re “too much,” ask again: For what, and for whom?

If you weren’t meant to have these big feelings, dreams, passions, and longings for expression — you wouldn’t have them.

If someone finds you “too much,” then once again, that person simply isn’t meant for you.

To me, the only true antidote to these feelings is faith — believing in something much stronger, bigger, and more grounding than your temporary emotions.

It is the knowing that you are here for a divine reason.

That God made you perfect as you are, here and now.

That you are not only worthy and valuable — you are essential to the cosmic equation.

Nothing in nature is wasted; everything has a place and a purpose.

Why would you be the exception?

You don’t even need to understand the divine orchestration — you just need to be willing to trust its perfection.

Once you start feeling part of it, all human reasons for rejection shrink in comparison.

So it’s not about regulating your big feelings.

And it’s certainly not about proving your “enoughness.”

It’s about strengthening your connection to your divine Source — in whatever way works for you.

What you truly need is a wider perspective — one from above, one more neutral and observing, one more connected.

And you do that by making yourself somatically, mentally, and emotionally comfortable in knowing yourself as divinely sourced.

It’s not even your mother or father who wanted you here — it’s a greater Intelligence.

And that is the only authority you should ever respond to.

When your heart remembers this, all other human authority loses its grip.

How you nurture and develop that connection is entirely up to you.

But once you’re rooted there, in that main relationship, you stop struggling for social approval — for relationships, importance, or achievement.

All of that becomes noise.

Because you’re holding a secret, a treasure within: once you truly feel it, once you become intimate with this truth, you can’t fall back into distractions.

Moods and emotions come and go.

Experiences come and go.

But the loving relationship you build with your Source — that becomes your foundation for everyday decisions, challenges, and adventures.

That is the ground you want to build your life upon.

That is the birth of pure devotion — not religiosity, not spiritual bypassing — but pure, consequential love for the Source you came from.

A Source that accepts you, wants you, and unconditionally holds you — exactly as you are, here and now.